Making history is nothing new for Malala Yousafzai, the youngest Nobel Peace Prize winner in the world. but her interview british vogue Underneath him, Malala proved to be a little girl as confused about life and her future as you and me.
Here are some of the most interesting things we learned from her interview.
Marriage may not be on the card
Malala’s views on marriage may come as a surprise to some, but probably not. Like most young people, she is on the lookout for institutions.
She said all her friends were talking about finding a partner, but she wasn’t sure what she wanted. “Everyone is sharing their relationship stories on social media and I’m worried. Whether I can trust anyone or not. [and] How can you be sure?”
Malala’s parents had an “arranged marriage,” but it’s unclear if the marriage was for her.
“I still don’t understand why people have to get married. If you want to have a person in your life, why do you have to sign the marriage papers, can’t it just be a partnership?
Like most Pakistani mothers, she is afraid of her daughter’s opinions. “My mother said, ‘Don’t you dare say that! You must get married. Marriage is beautiful,” said Malala.
But while Malala was once an anti-marriage, she realized that she was still growing and that our views change as we grow. Of all the things she said in her interview, I think this is one of the most relatable. This is because most young people today are having a hard time thinking about marriage. They’ve been questioning ideas pierced in his head for years, and 23-year-old Malala is at the peak of these questions.
No one has figured it all out, and it’s comforting to know that someone who seems to have it all together is just as confused as we are.
The answer to everything in Pakistan often seems to be politicians. For Malala, it wasn’t something she completely rejected.
“I think you need to know exactly where you are and who you want to work with before you get into politics. “All the political parties in Pakistan don’t have a clean history. Do you defend them, you don’t defend them? Change parties? Do you form your own party? Imran Khan did that and It took over 30 years.”
adapting to college life
Another relatable moment in the interview was when Malala first went to college and thought she was lost.
In the classic case of a big fish in a small pond, she said she was an A* student at a school in Pakistan, but when she arrived at Oxford, she realized that she was an ordinary student. Instead of taking this to heart, Malala realized that college was finally where she could be a kid. “I decided I would be very happy if I got a good 2:1. As you know, Oxford has three things: sleep, socialize and study, and you can’t have them all. Socialization was mine.”
Like most Pakistani children who go to school in her hometown, she was the first to realize that college has brought her many choices. She could stay as late as she wanted, go shopping, order delivery, or hang out with friends whenever she wanted.
“I was enjoying every moment because I had never seen it before. Because I was recovering from an accident, I had never been with people my age. [the Taliban’s attempt on her life], traveling the world, publishing books, making documentaries, and much more. In college, I finally got time for myself.”
But it also made all students realize that they have to learn the hard way. Too much socialization makes you complete a lot of tasks the night before your due date.
What will the future be like?
When asked where she is 10 years from now, Malala said, “It’s a question I ask myself every night.” What do you do next? “I lie in bed for hours, thinking.” Few people know how to ask questions and answer them.
But it was refreshing to see that even Malala was confused about the future.
“Where shall we live next? Should I continue to live in the UK? Or do I have to move to Pakistan or another country? The second question is who do you live with? Should I live alone? Should I live with my parents? I am with my parents now and they love me and especially Asian parents want their children to be together forever.”
Twitter isn’t everything
One thing Malala mentioned in an interview is her Twitter activity. There are a lot of people criticizing her for not posting her on Twitter when things went wrong.
According to Vogue, her style is more of a consensus than a callout. She prefers working with people rather than using social media. “Right now, we associate activism with tweeting. Twitter needs a change because it’s a completely different world,” she said.
And she is right. We often forget that just because someone said something on Twitter doesn’t mean it will be put into action, and vice versa. Don’t assume that just because someone doesn’t post on social media doesn’t help.
holding her head high and holding dupatta
Malala also spoke during the interview about the dupatta she had ever been to and told her that it was about religious ideals.
“It is a cultural symbol for us Pashtuns, so it represents where I come from. And Muslim girls or Pashtun girls or Pakistani girls are considered oppressed, asexual, or living under a patriarchy when they follow our traditional costumes,” she explained.
“I want to tell everyone that they can have their own voice within their own culture and that they can have equality in their culture.”
This was a brief mention in the interview, but it was powerful. Western feminism often regards cultural or religious symbols, such as head coverings, as oppressive and articulating the idea that someone adhering to your cultural norms is not always oppressive. Malala always adheres to her convictions and wears a scarf over her head. Trendy or not, it’s very empowering for her to have a quiet voice about what many other women around the world want to say.